Memorial Gifts for Children
When a child mourns
When choosing a memorial gift for a child, it's important to remember that death can be a scary and confusing time for children. The choice you make, as well as how you express your sympathy, should be a source of comfort to the child, when they may be feeling sad and overwhelmed.
The memorial gift you choose for a child will depend on who has passed away. For example, the death of a grandparent may not be as much of a shock as the loss of a parent would be. Or, if the child's friend has died, it may be an especially confusing time.
Your gift will also depend on the age of a child. Even toddlers can understand the changes and emotions experienced when someone dies, but they won't need the same types of support that a teenager or adult might need. You have to cater your gift specifically to the child and their situation, lest you appear insincere or even offensive.
You'll also have to consider your relationship to the child. If you're a parent or guardian, you're going to have to help the child understand what's happening - you might use a memorial gift as a way to do so. If you're a distant relative or acquaintance, you can safely offer a less consequential gift such as a toy or game. These types of gifts will be appreciated as a comfort for children dealing with a very adult situation.
Helping a child through the grieving process can be incredibly difficult. Here are some ideas for the best memorial gifts for kids:
- Journals, coloring books or scrapbooks. You can offer a child a chance to work through their thoughts and feelings by letting them write or draw. Some kids won't have the words to say what they mean, but will be able to express themselves with pictures or artwork. A book that locks might be especially appropriate for older children or teens so that they feel like they have some privacy.
- Worry stones. Sometimes a kid just needs something to fiddle with. They're expected to be quiet and still throughout most of the funeral process, so a worry stone will give them something to play with discreetly. You can even personalize the stone so that it is more personal.
- Toys or teddy bears. Even when dealing with death, a kid needs to be a kid. Toys or teddy bears remind them that it's okay to feel a variety of emotions. You can give them a regular toy to be played with, or you can get one that makes a special keepsake. Either way it'll be a memorial gift they can hold onto while they're working through the funeral and grieving process.